Episode 24: How to Be Girl Friends
Women's friendships: life-affirming sisterhood or hotbed of mean-girlness? From pop culture to politics, galpals are all the rage right now, so why aren't they taken more seriously? With help from girls at Camp Farwell and friendship author Kayleen Shaefer, Caroline and Cristen discover an age-old battle against besties that often keeps us from passing the IRL Bechdel Test. Plus, a pep talk for making friends from comedian and writer Erin Gibson.
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